Finally an end to your dispute!
Clear your head, get everything off our chest, be in control:

Mediation shows you the doors towards solutions,
and gives you the key you need to reach an agreement!

Would you like to try a mediation? For a better understanding two questions for you:
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You know, one of my colleagues always explains it a bit provocatively: "A mediator helps you create something, where an attorney just makes splits."

Could I just ask a quick question? What are you hoping for when you go to an attorney?

And what is the best deal for you?

This makes me think of a joint practice of three plastic surgeons. They met at university and went into the same specialty. In their private lives, they even shared some of the same hobbies. And as their eventual wives even hit it off together, it was clear that the trio should set up a joint practice.

It does. Twenty years later, however, things looked different. By the anniversary of the practice, they'd been going through some strife for several months. The tone was extremely snappish. The air was heavy with tension, even for the staff and the patients. As far as they could, the three doctors stayed out of each others' way. But there were a lot of decisions to make. It was critical that they get together and agree on some urgent matters. They had to hire two interns, and they needed to make several technical purchases. But their budget wasn't big enough for what they needed. The clock was ticking.

Finally, one of the three, annoyed, called his attorney. That seemed to be the point of no return. The other two took it as an open declaration of war, and their talks turned into shouting matches.

You can benefit from the same thing the three doctors experienced in mediation. The first big step was that they did return to the table together without their lawyers. The mediator's table, a neutral zone. At first, none of the three had to talk with any one of the others. Instead, everyone could describe his or her concerns to the mediator.

That way, they could all gradually lower their bows and arrows to their sides and lift the visors on their helmets. They all started to relax.

Imagine being able to speak and listen without having to defend yourself from side blows. No hurtful comments. No interruptions. That helps my clients work things out for themselves more clearly. And brings them to the point that they want to make. In addition, they are able to better understand what it is that their counterpart wants to say.

“So much new information came out. Many small misunderstandings resolved themselves. It created a whole new picture” - That's how they described the first major step with their feet planted more firmly on the ground.

Well, in mediation, all three of them could unload their emotions in front of each other for the first time, bit by bit. With all the issues that had filled them to bursting in the preceding months. Imperceptibly but inexorably, drop by drop. That suddenly put a lot of things under a different light for all of them. They started to feel regret. Suddenly, one colleague apologized sincerely to another.

That triggered a domino effect. And slowly but surely, they regained their trust in speaking with one another. This untied the knot that they had gotten themselves into, the issue of “it’s either you or me”. That was the big breakthrough for the team.

As the three doctors no longer needed to work against one another, more and more possible solutions occurred to them. All of the inevitable decisions previously had only an "either-or" solution. But in the mediation session, "both-and" proposals just kept streaming out. And then they were back on entirely solid ground. Having found a completely reliable path, they were able to agree very quickly.

And then they were on the home stretch. Using their own individual way, they were able to agree very quickly.

One thing that is central to successful mediation is for everyone to be on the same wavelength. It sounds simple, but it’s key. This is why we start by getting to know one another in an initial consultation between. You will be able to see whether I am someone that you can all trust. Whether everyone gets the feeling that I am able to understand you. Whether I will be there for all of you in an unbiased way. Only when all of your gut feelings say “yes” am I the right mediator for you.

A good mediator has a lot of the qualities of a good flight controller: I am always by the sides of all of you and help all of you to take the next step. Whether it be clearing your mind, resolving pent-up feelings or arriving at a new idea. Like a flight controller, I – as a mediator – always take care of the details as well as maintaining an overview.

In addition I have received a very solid qualification for this, which offers another key benefit: As an intercultural mediator I am even more conscious of the need to take account of your individual values and goals. Last but not least: flight controllers are flight controllers with their heart and soul. So am I as a mediator.

For me there is no job that is more meaningful. Seeing how people come to me, having sent armies of attorneys into the field. Wanting to “grab one another by the throat.” And seeing them leave: looking one another in the eye again and shaking hands. You know, I think everyone wants to feel that they are making a difference in their job. That’s mine. Would you like to know more about me?

It depends entirely on your needs, and on the number of participants. The decisive thing is when everyone feels that all of the issues between them have been resolved. An individual session lasts between one-and-a-half and four hours, depending on the number of participants. Many parties seeking mediation reach their goal after three sessions. Others have more to sort out and need six or seven sessions. People often benefit if they come to the mediation table together over a weekend for a day or two at a time.

I charge € 150 (plus VAT) per hour. This is around the normal hourly rate for consultants, coaches and therapists.

I can provide your mediation Max-Brauer-Allee in Hamburg. However, I would also be happy to come to you for your mediation. In that case, we would need a place that is not part of your work or family life. Neutral ground for everybody. For this purpose, we make appointments individually from week to week. Please feel free to call me directly or email me. It would be my pleasure!